6 years ago

6 years ago today, my husband broke my heart and broke up with me.

It was the best thing he could have ever done.  I was scared of how our relationship was because he, Casey, did not fit into "The Plan."  I had other things that I had talked myself into for sometime and it was very hard for me to realize "The Plan" was not how my life was going to be.  I knew I loved Casey and I knew he loved me but I am a bit of a stubborn person and didn't want to abandon "The Plan." 

 So instead of waiting around for me to figure out and decide, he broke up with me so I HAD to decide. 

4 days.

I didn't see or talk to him for 4 days.  I cried... a lot... and decided I needed to be with him.  He showed up to my Sacrament meeting that Sunday.  Everyone was standing up because they were singing "The Star Spangled Banner" for the opening hymn.  I saw him standing in the back row right by the doors and I cried.  

Later that evening I told him that I thought we should get married.

We went ring shopping on Monday and Tuesday, the 4th of July, he proposed right during the firework finale at the Bannock County Fairgrounds.  9 weeks later, on September 8, 2006, we were married for time and eternity in the Salt Lake Temple.

 Those 4 days were hard.  I tried calling him and he wouldn't answer my calls.  I cried to old roommates and close friends.  One close friend, Jeff, even called Casey and told him to "stay strong, don't answer her calls, and don't let her come to your baseball game... she's about to crack."  Tough love I guess. 

But without those 4 days I don't know if I would have had all the wonderful memories and things I have now.  

Like purchasing our simple first home together.

Or finding out today we are going to be able to build a new home exactly where we want.

Or graduating college together.

Or becoming parents for the first,

second,

and third time.

 Even though those 4 days were completely horrible, I am so glad he broke up with me.   It forced me to abandon "The Plan" and see the great person I already had.  It forced me to make a choice.  I am so glad he broke up with me.

 And I know I chose right.